Source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9094439/Zach-Avery-the-boy-5-who-wanted-to-be-a-girl.html
When three-year-old Zach Avery told his mother that he thought he was a girl, she assumed it was only a phase.
But as her son became increasingly upset at being referred to as a boy, and expressed a desire to wear girl’s clothes, she decided to seek the guidance of experts.
After months of consultations, doctors diagnosed Zachary with gender identity disorder, making him one of the youngest children in Britain to have the belief that they were born the wrong sex acknowledged by medics.
One year on, five-year-old Zach is almost unrecognisable. With his long hair tied back in pigtails, pink glasses and a collection of dolls, his parents have acknowledged that Zachy, as he is now known, is happier than he ever was.
His primary school has supported the family, informing other pupils that Zach felt he was a girl trapped in a boy’s body and even converting some lavatories to gender-neutral unisex.
His mother Theresa Avery, 32, made the difficult decision to speak out to raise awareness of gender dysphoria, which is classed as a psychiatric condition.
She admitted: “I would love to have my son back, but I want him to be happy. If this is the route he wants to take, if this is what makes him happy, then so be it. I would rather him have my full support.
“People need to be aware of this condition because it’s very common but even many family support workers have never heard of cases in children.”
She said Zach had been a “normal” little boy who loved Thomas the Tank Engine. But towards the end of 2010, he became obsessed with the children’s television character Dora the Explorer and started dressing in girls’ clothes.
Mrs Avery said: “He just turned round to me one day when he was three and said: 'Mummy, I’m a girl’. I assumed he was just going through a phase and just left it at that. But then it got serious and he would become upset if anyone referred to him as a boy.”
She said Zach, who has three siblings, used to cry and tried to cut off his penis out of frustration. Mrs Avery and her husband Darren, 41,took their son to an NHS specialist at Tavistock and Patman Foundation Trust in London and after several months of consultations and observations, a child psychologist diagnosed gender identity disorder.
They said the local primary school in Purfleet, Essex, had been “really supportive” and that pupils had been told that Zach, who wears a girl’s trouser uniform, was simply happier being female.
“He likes playing with his sister’s old toys but he still loves Dr Who too and playing with his brother. And we still put some neutral clothes in his wardrobe if he ever decides he wants to wear them.
“We leave it up to him to decide what he wants to do. If he changes his mind and wants to be a boy again then he does, but if he doesn’t, he doesn’t.”
Earlier this year a couple from Cambridgeshire attracted widespread attention when they announced that they had raised their child as “gender neutral” for five years so the infant’s “real personality” could shine through.
Beck Laxton, 46, and her partner Kieran Cooper, 44, from Sawston, decided not to disclose baby Sasha’s gender to the world so he would not be influenced by society’s prejudices and preconceptions.
The Tavistock and Patman Foundation Trust, the national body for gender identity disorder, said the number of children diagnosed with the condition had steadily risen from 97 in 2009-10 to 165 so far this academic year, which it said may reflect greater awareness. Only seven children under the age of five were diagnosed last year.
A spokesman said the groups’s aim was “to support the young person in their general development as well as develop a trusting collaborative therapeutic relationship in which it is possible to openly explore their feelings about their gender. We remain in contact with young people often for many years”.
